Here are my Rita Mae Brown letters and Bear messages. The first couple RMB letters explain their purpose. They are sent to her via the US Postal Service and I am forever grateful to her for allowing the letters to flow. I am adding some fiction shorts now on the "Writings" page. I hope you find something here of significance, something that brightens your day, entertains you, or touches you in some way. All my best to you.
Photographer Patricia Gulick
Monday, February 10, 2014
9-29-13 RMB If You Can Keep Your Head When…
If You Can Keep Your Head When…
Dear Rita Mae
California Sunday I am called to pick up the youngest. His demanding nature has
exhausted the patience of both moms. So he sits at my kitchen table writing the
If poem by Rudyard Kipling.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
contains the whole poem. I encourage every parent to share it with their
children. I read it as a child and it had a profound effect on me. I had hoped
that it would thusly affect “my” boys, my three nephews. Reading it once didn’t
do the trick. Having to write it out during “learning time” or “quiet time”,
our version of discipline, helped, but yet, the lessons still had not sunk in.
written it multiple times over the years, having to memorize portions of it,
the eldest might have the whole thing committed to memory by now, Lord knows he
has had to write it enough, and still the lessons somehow don’t seem to stick. Limits
are tested, tantrums are thrown, infractions occur.
What I find
interesting though, is that in a quiet moment, full of good behavior and
cooperation, every once in a blue moon, one of the three will whisper almost
under his breath “If you can keep your head when all about you are losing
theirs”. Our eyes meet and a shy smile appears on a young, proud, brave face.